I've always been the reader and movie-lover in my friend group. The way that stories and characters inspire me to be the best version of myself touches my soul in a way that nothing else does. I was already an imaginative child, but after my family moved across our state, I spent all of middle school connecting with fictional words and characters, so I spoke to relationship expert Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, for a look at why our bonds with fictional characters are so strong.
I've always been the reader and movie-lover in my friend group. The way that stories and characters inspire me to be the best version of myself touches my soul in a way that nothing else does. I was already an imaginative child, but after my family moved across our state, I spent all of middle school connecting with fictional words and characters, so I spoke to relationship expert Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, for a look at why our bonds with fictional characters are so strong.
As I aged, I felt like I was growing up with my favorite characters, from The Chronicles of Narnia's Lucy Pevensie to the various superheroes in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. As someone who's on the quieter side, it's always been inspiring to see characters that are brave under pressure because it makes me feel like I can be brave, too.
"Fictional romances can make us believe that our own romances should look exactly as we see them on the screen," Earnshaw says. "The same with how friendships and family relationships might be represented. But in real life, relationships are more complex and include day-to-day interactions which can't possibly be demonstrated on TV."
With so many shows and movies available, it takes no time at all to fall out of one hyperfixation and into another, but Earnshaw says that's not necessarily a bad thing. "Remind yourself that it's okay to have a fantasy! It is also okay to admire a character. I think it's super important not to have shame around this," she says. "And then, use that admiration and fantasy to consider what it means for your real life — what are you hoping for? What type of connections do you need?"
It’s the sight of an organized and tidy home that excites them the most. And we all know at least one person who is dedicated to a clutterless lifestyle (even if it’s you), which can make things tricky when it comes to gift giving. Instead of giving them more stuff, opt for things that help them keep their home spotless and junk-free. (You’ll want some of these things for yourself too!)
It’s the sight of an organized and tidy home that excites them the most. And we all know at least one person who is dedicated to a clutterless lifestyle (even if it’s you), which can make things tricky when it comes to gift giving. Instead of giving them more stuff, opt for things that help them keep their home spotless and junk-free. (You’ll want some of these things for yourself too!)
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Photo by It’s the sight of an organized and tidy home that excites them the most. And we all know at least one person who is dedicated to a clutterless lifestyle (even if it’s you), which can make things tricky when it comes to gift giving. Instead of giving them more stuff, opt for things that help them keep their home spotless and junk-free. (You’ll want some of these things for yourself too!)
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2020 Global Report Sheet
